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Rise of the sides: how Grindr finally recognized male lover men who aren’t tops or bottoms
Every month, nearly 11 million gay men around the world move on the Grindr app to look for sex with other men. Once there, they can scroll through an endless stream of guys, from handsome to homely, bear to twink. Yet when it comes to choosing positions for sex – a crucial criterion for most gay men – the possibilities have long been simply top and bottom. The only other option available toggles between those roles: verse (for versatile).
“Not fitting those roles has made it really tough to find someone,” said Jeremiah Hein, 38, of Long Beach, California. “There’s no category to select from.”
“Whenever I’d look at those choices I’d contemplate, ‘I’m none of those things,’” said Shai Davidi, 51, of Tel Aviv, Israel. “I felt there must be something false with me.”
Last month, however, that finally changed. In mid-May, Grindr added a position called side, a designation that upends the binary that has historically dominated gay male customs. Sides are men who find fulfillment in every kind of sexual proceed ex
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Two choruses. One voice. A celebration of solidarity and song.
Join the London Gay Men’s Chorus and the Amsterdam Homosexual Men’s Chorus (AMSGMC) for a powerful evening of music, friendship and fabulous harmony as we reunite to celebrate a decade of connection, joy and common purpose.
In , AMSGMC welcomed us to Amsterdam for a sold-out concert titled Together. The earth has changed since then – but the bond we built has only grown stronger. And now, we’re thrilled to welcome them to London and disseminate the stage once again.
London and Amsterdam have fierce, fabulous LGBT+ histories – and our choruses are proud to keep that legacy alive. Representing gay, bi and queer men from a wide range of backgrounds and nationalities, we are one people from two vibrant cities – united by song, by identity festival, and by the belief that visibility, love and joy matter more than ever.
This is more than a concert — it’s a celebration of friendship, collective, and joy.
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The gay men risking their health for the ideal body
LGBT correspondent
"You're too ugly to be gay," a man in a Huddersfield gay bar told Jakeb Arturio Bradea.
It was the latest in a series of comments from men that Jakeb says made him feel worthless. Last summer, following the comments, he tried to kill himself.
Manchester-based charity the LGBT Foundation has warned that body image issues are becoming more widespread in gay communities. It says gay and attracted to both genders men are "much more likely" than heterosexual men to struggle with them.
A number of queer men have told the BBC they are going to extreme lengths to change their bodies - including using steroids and having plastic surgery - just to become "accepted" by others in the LGBT community.
Several said pressure from social media platforms and dating apps was exacerbating their body issues.
"Guys with stunning bodies procure the comments and the attention," says Jakeb. "I've not gone on dates because I'm scared of people seeing me in real lif