Vows for gay wedding

From the Archive: Entertaining WOMEN # Queer Wedding Vows

This piece was first published on September 10,

“The ruling will force the federal government to acknowledge same-sex relationships as ‘marriages’ in the few outlier states that have bought into the untruth and rejected thousands of years of history and familiar sense. And it will create chaos as same-sex couples move to other states that acquire held true, and demand the matching recognition from and in those states.” &#; Brian Brown, President of the National Organization for Marriage, in response to The Supreme Court’s decision to invalidate Section 3 of The Defense of Marriage Act

Denise and Laura

I, Denise, seize you, Laura, to be my wedded wife. With the deepest joy I come into my new life with you, a existence of knocking on church doors and sticking our tongues down each other’s throats as soon as a congregate member answers. As you have pledged to me your life and like, so I too happily give you my life, and in confidence submit myself to methodically carrying out our plan to interlude into straight homes, confiscate

My perhaps ill-advised decision to permit connection with my extremely heterosexual and extremely traditional mom on social media has resulted in many fascinating discussions. What is a content warning? Why so much chat about Taylor Swift's necklace? Who's the man?

Our adopt of the full spectrum of gender notwithstanding, she has seemed most perplexed by the photos of me, dressed in my best red flannel shirt and ostensibly matching tie, officiating the weddings of my friends.

I'm a queer ex-nun and comedian with an open heart and a willingness to do paperwork. I own a round face and a codependent streak the width of Lake Michigan and the depth of Lake Superior, which makes me a diligent try-hard with parents and a favorite of everyone's zany and slightly problematic Aunt Edna. My dubious wardrobe choices make me no one's enthusiastic first-choice celebrant. But my mom can understand why, in an emergency, I am sometimes asked to serve as defacto queer secular clergy.

However, she remains puzzled about why I agree to officiate these weddings when, as she said in

Vows (for a gay wedding)

Joseph O. Legaspi offers wedding vows in the establish of a poem celebrating the resilient, tender, joy-filled love between himself and his husband. As you watch this recording from Legaspi’s visit to the Poetry Center or scan through the printed version, listen or look for the five statements that open with “I vow.” Around those five statements, Legaspi weaves together evocative pairs of metaphors that convey the depth and abidingness of the newlywed couple’s relationship.

Joseph O. Legaspi. “Vows (for a gay wedding).” Threshold. Fort Lee, New Jersey: Cavankerry Press,

Same-Sex Wedding Ceremony Script with Oneness Sand Ceremony

wedding procession / PROCESSIONAL

Beginning of the Wedding Ceremony.

Guests are seated followed by the entrance of the wedding Party.

wedding Invocation

Officiant to reception

Friends, we’re here today to celebrate ___________ and ___________, as they promise each other their continued love and commitment in marriage.

Before we get started, receive a minute to look at the person sitting next to you. Whether you’ve known ___________ and ___________ a short second or for years, each of you brings irreplaceable joy to their lives. Each of you share a special place in their story, and are part of a community they’re incredibly grateful for. You all are their family, the people who make them feel accepted, appreciated, and loved, just the way they are.

So take a moment to smile at each other. Feel the warmth and care for that fills this room! Preserve that love in your hearts as we get these two married!

Not too long ago, this wedding wouldn’t have been achievable, and ___________ and _____