How gay make love
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will consider bottoming at some second. However, the thought of doing it for the first second can be scary. Don’t grant that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in intense arse play like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can acquire douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Endeavor not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can construct you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do use amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased risk of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs like Viagra and may produce a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvat
How do same-sex couples have sex? How can they perform safer sex?
People who identify as queer woman , gay, bi or heterosexual can donate and express pleasure in many ways. There isn’t just one way for two people to have sex, no matter what sex or sexual orientation they are.
What two people of the same sex carry out to have sex together depends on what feels great for them. Often, people think that sex is only putting a penis into a vagina, but that may not be the activity that brings the most pleasure to the two people. This is true for heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian and gay people.
Males who identify as queer , bisexual or just do sexual things with other males may use their fingers (manual stimulation), mouths (oral sex) and various body parts to grant and receive pleasure. They may brush , touch each other’s bodies or handle the penis and other areas including the scrotum or the anus. Sometimes they use penises to penetrate the anal opening (anal sex).
Females who distinguish as lesbian, bi or just perform sexual things with other females may touch each other’s genitals by using their finger
I love anal sex. Does that make me gay?
Michael
I absolutely adore anal sex. I only ever receive and not interested in giving at all.
I have had sex with men several times but being married it's not always easy.. I now use the Renegade Meat Monster dildo off Lovehoney for my main pleasure. I can acquire around ten inches up and love the thick full feeling it gives me. Problem is I just feel that I want some form of anal all the period. I also enjoy giving men oral if I ever get chance.
As I said I'm married and love my wife. I don't fancy men I do prefer women but I think I receive more pleasure from anal sex than sex with my wife.
I usually describe myself as bi sexual but I'm not sure if that's precise or if in evidence I'm gay and daren"t admit it. I would actually like regular sex with a regular male partner if I could ever sort that.
Any thoughts?
EagerPlease2
The way I see it, you can enjoy any kind of sensation/pleasure with very tiny or no attached gender/sexuality to it.
Liking anal sex does not, in and of itself, form you gay. Liking and wanting sex with the
Gay Love, Straight Instinct
Coming of age with “a very confused identity,” writer Andrew Solomon was certain he had to make a choice between creating a family and being gay. To possess a husband, to utter nothing of children, was unimaginable when he was growing up in the s and ’80s. Very attached to his family of origin, he led “a squalid secret sexual life” through his delayed teen years and first 20s.
His sense of shame burned so deep that Solomon eventually vowed never to take up residence in any closet ever again. So it was that after being incapacitated by depression in his early 30s, he chronicled his own breakdown and went on to note about the oft-concealed affliction in a prize-winning novel, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression. The marginalization that attended growing up homosexual saw frank expression in Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, his exploration of how parents raise children who are markedly distinct from themselves in any one of a number of ways.
“The relief of authenticity after years of avoidance and surreptitiousness wa