Straight men having sex with other men
Why do some straight men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men hold had sex with other men.
In the new book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men - many of whom enjoy seeking, fishing and shooting guns - are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
The majority of the men interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and favor to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to have more sex. They don't consider sex with men cheating and see
Why Are Self-Identified Straight Men Hooking Up With Each Other?
“I’m not gay,” the men would assure me. They told me this in gym locker rooms, via countless unsolicited messages on Twitter, and in the chatroom of the webcam service for which I occasionally performed during my leaner years in graduate school. Although I was studying to change into a cultural historian, I was too poor and too confused to hand their comments much consideration. It was just what they said, and if it meant some extra money in my pocket while I sat there shirtless, so be it.
But other scholars have examined such remarks, thereby illuminating a benighted piece of my past. The grand gender and sexuality theorizing of Judith Butler and Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick has long since been enriched by an intersectional type of cultural criticism, and a host of superior case studies on other segments of the gay community have emerged in recent years. Applying this kind of analysis to male behavior has yielded penetrating insights about everything from the girth-and-mirth-oriented “bear” subculture to the distinct c
I've only dated women, but I love flirting with other men online. Does this mean I'm not straight?
I'm a straight something male and I've only had sex with women.
But I haven't been with any women in a while because I'm a pretty picky dude.
Recently, I've been going on Grindr and talking to other men with no intention of ever conference them. I just like flirting with the people on there.
But one hour, I decided to meet up with one of the men. It was great at first, but things got sexual and when I saw his penis, I freaked out and immediately left. Why did I react that way? Am I definitely straight?
I feel so uncomfortable asking these questions, especially since I see myself married with a wife and kids in the long race.
Why do I like going on gay dating apps when I'm horny?
- Toronto
Dear Toronto,
It's normal to want to put yourself into a box when it comes to your sexuality, because, well, that's a human tendency. We love to compartmentalize others, and ourselves, because it makes life easier.
But sexuality is more complicated.
It's OK guys, just acknowledge it - half of you are not % straight
When it comes to sexuality, there’s never been a more exciting period to be alive. Unbent, gay, pansexual, asexual, transsexual, hetero-flexible, bisexual; the endless list of sexual identities surely indicates society is heading in an ever-more inclusive direction, right? Perhaps we’re finally moving towards a time where people are less afraid to live a life that reflects who they really are.
Yet there are still some social barriers that refuse to budge - especially for those people who aren't entirely sure of their own sexuality.
Sexuality is often described as a spectrum; some people identify as entirely unbent and others as entirely gay. However many people lie somewhere in that sizeable grey area between the two, and it seems that more new people than ever are realising they are in that number: not spotting as bisexual, nor recognizing as % hetero either. In a recent explore, external, when asked to place themselves on a ‘sexuality scale’, of the 18 to 24 year olds participating, 1 in 2 chose s